Provide Vision to Motivate Change

- Insights from Ed Miller

One of the most powerful agents for change is providing a vision for something different and its benefits. Many of us take a "laying down the law" approach instead of the vision approach. Vision involves giving children a picture of a desired future. What will my life look like if I make this change or develop this character quality? We need to paint pictures for our children. 

At this point, parents often ask me, "But how do you do that?" It's a great question. 

Bible verses such as Jeremiah 29:11 are a great place to start. “For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Vision helps children and young people understand why the current firmness and change is important and how it will benefit them both now and for the future. We need to expand on this with our children. We need to talk about the positive aspects of this future. And we need to be specific. I've found that telling stories from my own life can be most helpful. 

I remember talking with one of my sons about the importance of trust. Once trust is broken, it's hard to earn it back. It's not impossible by any means, but it's harder. Trust is one of the most important treasures in your life. If you maintain trust, you will do well with people. They'll confide in you; they'll give you responsibilities and privileges; they'll take risks and expect you to do the right thing. It really worked with my son. He understood how helpful this would be in his life. 

I've heard it said that many young children have never actually heard their parents' testimony of how they came to Christ. This is a great way to help a child understand the benefits of following Christ. Tell them why you made the decision and how it's changed your life. 

Visioning usually takes place in a positive meeting with the child that affirms the good parents see and gives the child a preview of changes that are to come. Again, instead of a “laying down the law” type of attitude, parents express a vision for the importance of the changes and how they will, in the end, benefit that child both internally and relationally. In essence to work now will create life skills that will help a child well into the future.

How do you cast vision for your children?


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