My name is Ed Miller.
Working with a Parenting Coach 

I worked with Lisa Brown this past winter/spring as her parent coach. Lisa has just begun her training this summer with Dr. Scott Turansky to become a parent coach. I've asked Lisa to share her story about being coached this year. There's a bio of Lisa at the end of her article so you'll be able to get to know Lisa and her family better. 
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I Needed Help and Direction. 

by Lisa Brown

My eight year old son use to get frustrated every time I asked him to do something like pick up his toys, do his school work, or clean the dishes. There were days when he would argue over everything with me. He used to have a tantrum when he didn’t get his way.

I needed help and direction. Life couldn’t go on like this.

He use to come to the breakfast table and demand us to feed him what he wanted and he threw a fit if we served him anything else different. He always wanted to be the first to get his plate and cup.

When asked to do a chore he would only do a little bit of it and then tell us he was finished even though he wasn’t. He expected his sister to play and do things his way and if she didn’t he would say hurtful things to her.

If he couldn’t figure out a math problem he would yell at me, cry, complain, and sometimes refused doing school work all together. Reading was difficult and he use to give up before he even got started.

I used reward incentives for good behavior and I took things away from him when he misbehaved. The reward system worked temporarily but he is smart and he quickly figured out how he could manipulate us and get out of it what he wanted.

About six months ago I met Ed Miller and asked him to help me examine my son’s heart. I was concerned about the condition my son’s heart was in. Very quickly Coach Ed helped me realize that I needed to take a different parenting approach. My son had a lot of selfishness in him and I needed tools to help him get unstuck. Ed Miller invited me to the Eight Week Parenting Coaching Program and there I learned how to help my son to do more than what is expected, to treat others as special, to follow instructions and to problem solve by getting his heart right with God.

It’s been several months now since we started using the training material and my son is a different child now.

He recently told me,

“I’m beginning to see who God created me to be on the inside. I’m a happy boy not an angry boy. I’m a kind boy who likes to do things for others.”

Today my son makes the whole family breakfast! He does extra special things for his sister. He smiles a whole lot more. He follows directions and doesn’t blow up as often as he used to. He gets his school work and chores done. We have more peaceful days then stressful.

My son still has struggles with selfishness and anger. He wants things to go his way and he doesn’t like change without early notice. He has moments of refusing to do what he is asked to do. There are days that he struggles with disappointments and he gets all worked up. Not a day goes by without him having to go take a break to calm himself down.

My son has come into this world with lots of emotions. Strong emotions. He is intense and passionate. He is quick to anger.

In the past I didn’t know how to handle his stubbornness nor his explosive emotions. I used to get frustrated with him when he didn’t pay attention and I would repeat myself. I used to yell at him when he didn’t complete a task I sent him on to do. I still yell sometimes when I’m overwhelmed and tired. But not as much as I used to. Because now I have new strategies that are working and I’m listening for God’s direction.

My son will be turning nine in a few weeks and he is becoming a problem solver who is motivated to do well. Today he made his own schedule as to when he will do his chores and school work. He set his own timer to keep track of the time. I didn’t think he was going to accomplish the tasks I asked him to do. But he did and some extra!!!

Tonight before he went to sleep he pulled out his Bible and did a bedtime devotion all by himself. God is moving in my son’s heart. We serve a mighty loving God.

My heart is jumping for joy and I’m so excited for my boy. A year ago he asked God every day to help him with his anger. God answered his prayer!!!!

His biggest prayer lately has been about having a better relationship with his sister and me. He has been surprising us with little things like doing something nice or making a picture for me. This is a new thing and it’s coming straight from his heart.

I highly recommend the Parenting Coaching Program. It has helped my son so much and now I’m taking my seven year old daughter through it. A matter a fact I’m training to become a coach. I’m working with two moms and starting in August I will be available to work with more parents.

I’d love to work with you if you are interested but I need to finish my training first. However, you can get started right now by connecting with Ed Miller and he will hook you up with either himself or a trained coach.


Lisa Brown - lisadesign@comcast.net

Lisa is an aspiring writer with a mother's passion for Homeschool Education. She has an 8 yr. old son, a 7 yr. old daughter, and has been married to her husband for 10+ yrs. Prior to marriage, she worked over 20 yrs. enriching the lives of hundreds of children and families. Lisa has a Bachelors in Social Work and Early Childhood Education.





















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2 comments:

  1. Lisa, I think my heart literally danced when I read what your son said about seeing who God created him to be on the inside! My youngest is 18 and she demonstrated some of the same behaviors you described here. We worked through it, and she has matured a lot, but how much easier the path would have been with a resource like this!

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  2. Thanks for that very encouraging comment Karen. This comment was a wonderful blessing to Lisa. Have a great weekend.

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