Who Are Your Heroes?
My name is Ed Miller.
Dr. John Alexander was one of my heroes. He was the President of InterVarsity Christian Fellowship – USA. (IV) when I joined the staff team as a campus intern. I admired and respected him greatly. He played a key role in IV moving from being a movement to a mission. He brought planning and goal-setting to us with POGAS. (Purpose, Objectives, Goals And Standards)

I moved on to become the Area Director for IV in Central/South New Jersey and Dr. A retired. In 1991, IV was celebrating it’s 50th Anniversary of “Evangelism, Discipleship and Missions” on the college campuses of the USA. We decided to run an IV Alumni Conference at Rutgers University and I invited Dr. A to be the speaker. He agreed and decided to take us up on our invitation to stay at our home in urban New Brunswick. 

It was a wonderful conference on a Saturday and Dr. A then went to one of my sponsoring churches with me the next morning. I’ll never forget taking a walk with him around New Brunswick and through Rutgers University that afternoon. We were looking to re-plant a ministry on one of the 5 campuses there at Rutgers and he reminded me of the importance of gathering a few people to under-gird the mission with prayer. I’ll never forget that. 

We also talked about one of his favorite subjects – planning! I’m a planner, so this was just fine with me. As we talked, Dr. A mentioned Proverbs 16:9; “In his heart, a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps.” And we talked about Proverbs 19:21, “Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails. Dr. A shared with me that planning is a good thing, but we have to hold onto those plans lightly. I felt like I was sitting at the feet of Jesus. He then shared a parable about a person setting out to cross a lake in a sailboat. The plan was to go straight to the other side and the winds were favorable. It was a good plan. Then the wind kicked up and blew the boat hard toward the starboard shore. If you know anything about sailing, you know that you have to go with the wind. So the man went with the wind and then was able to tack back. He made it to the other shore.

The plan was good, but the wind of the Holy Spirit often blows us where we don’t expect to go. We need to learn to go with the Spirit. People often look at this passage and say, “God doesn’t want us to make plans.” I don’t think this is what the passage is saying at all.

I'm an elder at Calvary Chapel Living Hope in Robbinsville, New Jersey. About 4 or 5 times each year, I have the opportunity to bring the message on a Sunday at our worship gathering. I'm slowly working through the book of James. We just finished up Chapter 4 with this selection at 4:13-17.

I don't believe this selection from James is primarily about planning. It’s about arrogance. The folks that James was writing to were businessmen and traders. They would focus on a city and see dollar signs. They’d plan to go there and make a killing and then move on. They had it all planned out without consulting God. All of the Biblical Parenting social media posts this week are about responding to the leading of the Holy Spirit. In all aspects of our life, we need to be humble and responsive to God's leading through his Holy Spirit. 

This is so very much true in the realm of parenting. We love to assist and coach parents in developing plans for change and growth in their children. We focus mostly on a strategy because the plans are always changing. We're one week into the new Online Biblical Parenting Support Group. All of the parents in the group have developed initial plans, but those plans are going to change every week. Being sensitive to God's leading and the prompting of the Holy Spirit is crucial for us as parents.

I hope that these thoughts and our many resources at the National Center for Biblical Parenting will make it just a bit easier for you. Please post questions and I’ll be happy to give you some feedback.


I'm working on a new video series to demonstrate some additional skills in parenting. "John" will play the role of my son this time and he's going to be much less cooperative than "Joe." We'll get into some correction strategies in this video. The first installment will be available in about a week.


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