3 Ideas for Coaching for Your Children


3 Ideas for Coaching for Your Children

Day 3: Ultimate Blog Challenge. Have you ever been a coach? What comes to mind when you think of coaching? There are many different kinds of coaches in our society today. There are coaches who yell and scream and kick dirt. Others are
Ed, Dave, Amanda, Maddie, Tim & Joanne Miller
very demanding and negative and focus only on mistakes. Some know how to teach and train, but others have little experience in developing strong skills. So what does a good coach look like and how does this apply to being a parent? I'm glad you asked!

I would suggest that parenting is one of the hardest and one of the most important jobs in the world. And the job of a parent is much like that of a coach. A good coach does these 3 things.

  1. Give vision
  2. Provide direction
  3. Offer genuine affirmation

In our efforts to train our children, we need to focus more on the future that we desire for our children. This means that we focus on the heart or character qualities that we hope to see God develop in them. We focus on the end goal and then develop a plan to coach our children in working the plan. This is giving or casting vision. We often get focused on the problems and challenges in a child's life. We can be very negative and even angry in working with our kids. I'm not saying that there is no place for firm instruction. In fact, firm instruction and direction are vital. Finally, we need to communicate to our children that we believe in them and we are committed to their success. This is genuine affirmation.

My tennis partners: Dave and Tim Miller
We use coaches in sports, fitness, and education. There are "Life Coaches," Wellness Coaches," "Business Coaches" and "Career Coaches." I mentioned my life-long passion for coaching. I didn't tell you that I probably spend more time playing tennis these days than I do any other sport. Tennis was my favorite sport when I was young. My Junior High School music teacher was also the High School Tennis Coach in my town. He would somehow find out which of his students had an affinity for tennis and hold special tennis classes after school. (I think he was seeking to develop the pipeline of talent or his High School Team.) He would also invite us to the country club where he was the local pro and give us instruction. This is where he would really do his coaching. He would teach, instruct, correct and encourage and demonstrate proper form. He helped us develop a winning strategy by matching us with some of the stronger young players at the club. 

One of the most helpful things that this coach provided in my life was a belief in me. He inspired confidence and came along side of me to help ME be successful. He wanted me to grow and take my game to the next level. He wasn't perfect. He did a lot of yelling along with the encouragement, but it was clear that he believed in me. A good coach knows how to be firm, but avoids being harsh. I continued to work with this coach through High School, but I still remember those coaching sessions at the country club. 

 In order to become a strong coach for our children, we may need a coach to work with us. A coach knows how to pass information on to parents in ways that they can understand and work into their lifestyles. They have been trained and have experience in developing confidence and skills in parents. I was blessed to be coached by Dr. Scott Turansky as a young parent. The accountability was invaluable in addition to the other benefits a coach provides in a person's life. 

Tomorrow, I'll share more about how to coach your children in developing a particular skill or character quality.

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What are your strengths as a coach for your children? Share your thoughts in a comment.


Milan Tomic

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  1. "One of the most helpful things that this coach provided in my life was a belief in me." May be the most important words in this post. Helping our children believe in themselves is vital. Looking forward to reading your other tips.

    1. Thanks the the comment and encouragement Nita. As a coach I see a lot of parents and other coaches being very negative with kids. I think kids are generally more responsive to positive reinforcement and encouragement. Of all people, parents should be the ones who are the strongest believers in a positive future for their children.