Teach Kids to Add Energy to Family Life

Every child is unique and different. Inevitably some kids have significant challenges that seem to suck the energy right out of family life. These children can be demanding of your time, may need a lot of correction, and can be magnets for conflict. They may be emotionally explosive and even draw other family members into conflict. Unfortunately, these children can develop a negative view of themselves based on the high amount of negative feedback they receive.

You’re likely doing a number of things to help your child change, but here’s one that focuses on a positive quality needed instead of stopping the negative behaviors, and it pays off big time in a child’s life. It’s God’s solution called HONOR.

Honor teaches kids to add energy to family life. The term “honor” describes the process of thinking of others above yourself. In fact, God has hidden within honor the secret ingredients people need to be successful. In essence, it brings customer service into the home. Every form of selfishness has an honor-based solution.

Honor means to treat people as special, do more than what’s expected, and have a good attitude. Feel free to use this definition or make up your own. Obedience gets the job done, but honor addresses the way people relate to one another. Once you define honor for your child, then it’s time to practice.

If Jack gets people riled up each afternoon before dinner, you might set an appointment with him at 4:00 pm for several days in a row and ask him to look for three things he can do to add to family life. He may decorate the dinner table, encourage his brother, or prepare something nice for Dad’s arrival home. Kids who tend to create tension in relationships need honor practice.

If Jack continually antagonizes his sister, you might tell him that he needs to think of three honoring things to do for her before he’s free to play. Remember, don’t tell him exactly what he needs to do. If you decide what Jack needs to do and tell him to do it, that’s obedience.

Honor requires initiative by adding something extra or doing a task that needs to be done. Many children wait for others to tell them what to do. It’s hard to teach kids to take initiative because the very act of telling them seems to take the initiative away. That’s why you may require your child to do something honoring but not tell him what to do. You want to help him to start seeing the need or solving a problem for himself. “Son, I’d like you to go into the bathroom and do an honor check.” Now he needs to see what needs to be done and do it.

Honor changes the way children think. Of course it takes practice but the training you do now adds a new dimension to your parenting. Instead of using correction all the time, now you’re doing honor training.

Work on honor whether your kids are preschoolers or teens. It’ll change the way your family relates. The Kids Honor Club is great fun for Family Time in your home. Everyone will learn and you'll add lots of energy to family life. Between May 16 and May 23, you can get a digital version of The Kid's Honor Club ($29.95 value) as part of the Character Bundle in the 2016 Build Your Bundle Sale. There are 13 additional resources (see the graphic below) that will help any family and you can get it all for just $20.00. We're participating in this sale so the links are affiliate links. 

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  1. This is a MUST READ. This is still my favorite material because it's impacted many areas of my life for the good. We have 8 lines of parenting curriculum at the National Center for Biblical Parenting. This article comes from the "Honor" material which has to do with how we treat people in family life and in all other relationships. Let us know what you think of the article. ‪#‎heartparenting‬