Parent Training Centers - Parents Are Eager and Waiting



Meet Amy. She has three children ages 6, 10, and 14. She has a lot of questions about how to discipline and train her kids. Where will she go to find help?

The answer? Amy’s church is a Parent Training Center. They offer several different opportunities for the support and training of parents. Amy didn’t grow up with good parenting role models, so she appreciates her church’s parenting small group where she can learn how to parent her children’s hearts. She’s a single mom and on the go continually. Amy appreciates the email parenting tips sent from the church that provide little nuggets of truth and encouragement. She’s looking forward to the live parenting seminar coming up next month, because her kids will learn things in their groups that complement what she learns in the adult session.


Three Biblical Principles Drive a Church to Become a Parent Training Center

Principle #1 - The Great Commission Discipleship mandate from Christ himself. Jesus left us with a mission. He said, “I want you to make disciples of all nations…teaching them to do all that I commanded you.” (Matthew 28:19-20)

And thus churches develop discipleship programs to help people grow in their faith. But does that just mean as individuals? Maybe it also means that we help people understand how to take Jesus home and apply his truths in the family as well.

Notice in the Great Commission the assignment is to teach all that Christ commanded. Do those things help us in our family life? The answer is YES.”  For example, Jesus said, “If you want to be great in my kingdom learn to be the servant of all.” (Matthew 20:26) Might that truth help address sibling conflict in a home? Jesus taught, “Store up your treasures in heaven, not on earth.” (Matthew 6:20) Might that truth help us make decisions about our weekly schedules in family life? Jesus taught us to be careful of anger in Matthew 5:22. Might that truth help us as we discipline our children?

Principle #1 is this: The discipleship mandate includes helping people apply the scriptures to their roles and relationships in family life.

The second principle has to do with a parent’s role. It’s true that the church has a responsibility to disciple children. It’s part of the discipleship mandate. But it’s the parents who have the primary responsibility to be the spiritual trainers of their children.

Deuteronomy 6:6-9 provides instructions to parents, “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”

Principle #2 is this: Parents are the primary spiritual trainers of their children.

Principle #3 has to do with parenting methodology. It’s all about the heart. God wanted Samuel to find a new king to replace King Saul. As Samuel looked around at the prospects, he thought God would choose Eliab because he was tall and handsome. It was in that moment that God spoke to Samuel and said, “Man looks on the outward appearance but the Lord looks on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7)

The heart is important to God, but most parent training programs focus on behavior using reward and punishment as the primary tools to bring about change. Parents tend to approach parenting with a reward/punishment model in mind. “Pick up your toys and you can have a snack,” or “Finish your homework and you can watch TV.” They are essentially saying to their children, “I’ll give you what you want if you do what I say.”

Now, rewards aren’t wrong, but if children are fed a steady diet of that kind of approach then they start asking the wrong kinds of questions about life. Kids begin to evaluate instructions by saying, “What’s in it for me?” “Are you going to pay me for that?” And many children, then, grow into an entitlement mentality.

Principle #3 is very important: Parents must use heart-based strategies to reach their children for the long-term.

Those three biblical principles drive every church to become a Parent Training Center.

But what does it mean in practical terms to be a Parent Training Center? It simply means that the church is the place where parents are trained to work with their children in a way that reaches their hearts.

But that’s where many churches get stuck. The family is under tremendous pressure today. In addition to traditional families, there are single parents, grandparents raising children, blended families, adoptive, and foster families.

After all, how do you help someone like Amy, whose six year old has an anger problem, or whose fourteen year old is having a hard time in school? Amy needs strategies for the challenging problems in her family. And she’ll need support as her children continue to grow.

Churches can now gain much of their strategy from the National Center for Biblical Parenting and their Parent Training Centers Program. They receive regular support and encouragement to set up the structures for parent discipleship.

Every church is different, so the specifics of how this takes place will vary based on the church’s uniqueness. But here are some common things to help you get started.

Assess your church’s uniqueness by identifying your demographics and specific needs and challenges.

Then organize by appointing a Parent Resource Person, a Parent Resource Team, and a way to identify parents who are interested in the resources provided by the church.

Next, the church will need to communicate with interested parents, and to the church as a whole, the vision for strengthening families. How will that communication take place?

Biblical Parenting offers many different activities for churches. Each church will choose activities that best meet the current needs of their families.

As parents see success, testimonies are shared with others and evaluation provides opportunity to adjust the programs to better meet the needs families face.

When churches become Parent Training Centers then children are more successful, parents are more hopeful, and the church is doing its job more faithfully.

Amy is already inviting parents she knows to come to the live seminar, because it’s being used by the church as an outreach to the community. People all over are looking for help for their families. 

And where will they go to get it?

They’ll come to you, as your church becomes a… 

Parent Training Center. 

We're now offering an "Early Adopter" Discount worth $50.00 OFF the initial fee for the first 20 churches that sign up. 


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