What To Do When Kids Are Annoying


It can be irritating when kids are annoying, but if we stop for a minute and focus on the solution instead of the problem, then good things can happen both for our child and for our own hearts.

Children who exhibit annoying behavior often lack the sensitivity that seems to come naturally to others. Sensitivity helps kids ask themselves the question, "How is my behavior affecting other people?" Or, "How is that other person feeling and what can I do to help?"

Some children are overly sensitive. They are very tuned in to the cues around them and sometimes exaggerate their meaning. These children have a tremendous gift but may need to tone down the way they interpret cues. Dustin may cry whenever Mom looks at him a certain way. Krista may interpret her friends' giggling as people laughing at her. These kids are misusing the good character quality of sensitivity and need help understanding how to use it appropriately.


Unfortunately, some children are at the other end of the continuum. These kids can't seem to hear a whispered cue; they need a loud voice.  But increased volume often comes with intensity and harshness that damages relationship. By discussing the particular problem, parents can often raise the awareness level and if they need some other reminder, it might be an agreed upon silent signal like a raised finger.

Parents feel embarrassed because their kids require correction and the offense seems glaringly obvious. A parent might say, "She should know better by now," or "I shouldn't have to say it so many times." Yes, that's true, but for one reason or another some kids just don't get it.

The good news is that sensitivity can be learned and that you will likely have many opportunities to teach it. As one mom told us, “I was trying to explain sensitivity to my six-year-old son who is continually wild around the house. He'll just run in and make siren noises, or blurt out a question without considering what's already going on in the room. I used the picture of an open door allowing a cold, snowy, wind to blow right into the kitchen, ‘That's how I feel when you act wild or silly without thinking about me or what I'm doing. I'd like you to try again and come in like sunshine.’ He thought that was funny but it connected. Each time he blasts into the room without sensitivity, I shutter and say ‘Burrrr.’ Finally, he's getting the message.”

Whether your child needs to learn responsibility, anger management, sensitivity, or self-control, develop a plan. If you as a parent have a plan, then you'll be much more effective at training your children in the every day activities of life.


For more on how to develop character in your kids, pick up the book, Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character inYou and Your Kids.




If you’d like some help developing a specific plan for your child, consider the book Motivate Your Child Action Plan.







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