Teaching Honor to Kids

Another Parenting Tip from The National Center for Biblical Parenting…
One of the ways that parents can teach honor to children is to include it in the instruction process. You might say, “It's time to obey me by setting the table, then I want you to think of something extra to do to surprise me. That’s showing honor. You choose; it’s up to you. Report to me when you’re done and I’ll check your work.”

Surprising parents delights them and focuses on something they want or need. Instructing children to surprise you by doing something extra teaches them to think about your needs and desires not just getting away with the bare minimum. When your child does an extra task, it’s like giving you a gift. Receive the gift with delight. This can be a fun way to teach honor.

Honor involves doing more than what's expected. All family members need to practice honor and children can learn it when parents teach it. So look for ways to teach kids to do more than what's expected in daily life. It will not only make family life more enjoyable now but it will also help kids be more successful as they get older.

This parenting tip comes from the Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes curriculum
Whether it's a road trip to your favorite vacation spot, or just runs back and forth to the town pool or ball field, summer time often means more time in the van. Turn your car-time into honor-time with the Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes Audio SeriesClick here to learn more.

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  1. Hmm... one way of honoring someone is to do something unexpected or above and beyond to bless them. However, it seems to me that saying "its time to obey me by setting the table then I want you to think of something extra to do to surprise me..." really invalidates honor. Does your spouse, or boss, or neighbor speak to you like that? If they did would you feel more like honoring them or less? I would suggest that you could use a much subtler approach which would start by speaking to your children in a way that honors them.

    1. You're right, that modeling honor by talking in an honoring way is important. Thank you. I would suggest, however, that there is a difference between the boss, neighbor, spouse relationship and the parent/child relationship. We have a responsibility to train our kids and, although modeling honor with our kids is essential, it's usually not enough. Most kids need more teaching and training to develop honor in their lives. So we want to look for ways to teach them how to add extra to the tasks they're doing. Another example might be to require them to relook at the homework assignment to make sure it goes above and beyond before turning it in. That's doing more than what's expected. Thanks for the dialogue about this. --Scott Turansky