Raising Teens

Are You Raising a Teenager?

    - Reflections from Ed Miller

Do you feel like you're in a long dark tunnel with no end in sight? I know that feeling because I experienced it too! The teenage years can be a challenge for both parents and teens. In order to successfully navigate these years, parents need to make some significant shifts in the way they parent. This isn't easy. Teens need to find their identity separate from their parents, but they still need guidance and wisdom as they sort this all out. They're dealing with peer pressure, self esteem, questions about faith, and other issues in the ever-growing complexity that is our modern world. And this is all happening in a "sex-crazed" and materialistic culture. Teens are struggling today to find their identity and a purpose for their lives. 

Joanne and I just had the privilege this weekend of celebrating the marriage of our first son, Dave. It was a wonderful weekend filled with joy, beauty, and lots of emotion. At the reception, a friend asked me why I was so happy. He thought I might just be happy to have Dave grown and launched. I shared that I was overflowing with gratitude that he had become such a wonderful young man. I was also rejoicing that he was marrying a wonderful Christian young woman whom I've known since she was born! (My new daughter!) And I was full of hope and expectation as Dave and Amanda embarked upon a wondrous adventure of serving the Lord as a couple. I can't wait to see how the Lord is going to lead them and use them. And then of course there's just the amazing fact that I've known the in-laws for 37 years. What a weekend!

It wasn't always this way. Dave and I are very much alike and we started butting heads when he was about 12 or 13. His teen years were a rough time for both of us, but we made it through! Dave developed an amazing amount of patience with me as a teenager. And I learned to make the important shift to more of a coaching role as a parent. I'm very grateful for the mentors that the Lord brought into his life during these years. Through it all, we both made keeping a strong relationship a priority and that made all the difference. 

Dr. Scott Turansky officiated at Dave and Amanda's wedding this weekend and that was also very special. The ceremony was Christ-centered and inspirational. I'm grateful to Scott for teaching me about the importance of making parenting shifts and the value of putting the emphasis on a strong relationship with your teen through those "dark years." We all like to say that the teen years may be a dark tunnel, but there is a light at the end of that tunnel. This weekend was all about celebrating that hope and light!

I love the opportunities I now have to share what I've learned with parents who are still in that dark tunnel. I hope that these thoughts and our many resources at the National Center for Biblical Parenting will make it just a bit easier for you. Be sure to take advantage of this wonderful new resource for parents of teens. The best part of this is the discussions you can have with your teen over the 16 Life Success Principles. I wish I had these 15 years ago. 

16 Life Success Principles - Videos and Discussions for Parents and Teens.





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