When Kids Blame Problems on Others

Another tip from The Christian Parenting Handbook…
It’s amazing how some children are able to see every factor that went into their current problem except their own part. Indeed, some kids have a problem blaming others and not taking responsibility for their part of the problem. In the child’s mind, it’s always someone else’s fault.

Children who blame, lie, or resist taking responsibility have a character weakness. It’s not enough to just use parental authority to overpower a child or worse yet, to humiliate a child. Those techniques are counterproductive. It takes courage and confidence to admit fault. Coaching children to rise to the occasion and, at times, requiring that they do so, can be an excellent way to increase confidence levels in that child.

God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.
—James 4:6

In your family, talk about the difference between pride and humility by doing a few activities to encourage humility as an important success principle for life. Everyone can participate providing examples of what humility is. You might simply ask, “What is a way you did or will demonstrate humility today?” Brainstorm ideas of ways people demonstrate humility and talk about why it’s helpful. You might contrast humility with arrogance and describe how they are demonstrated and why people appreciate one and are annoyed by the other.

The underlying problem in many children is the reluctance to admit fault for various reasons. Sometimes, it’s fear of punishment or parental disapproval or the self-condemnation that comes from admitting weakness. Those deeper issues must be met with a bigger approach involving teaching, coaching, and training.

The reality is that admitting fault isn’t a sign of weakness but is a sign of strength. The person who responds well to correction learns faster and matures more rapidly. Those kinds of truths help kids to have the humility and courage to admit fault.


This parenting tip comes from Chapter 43 in the book The Christian Parenting Handbook: 50 Heart-Based Strategies for All the Stages of Your Child's Life by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN. 
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