Launch Week - Day 6

Let me tell you a story.

I was at the ball fields at Lawrence Little League last night (Lawrenceville, New Jersey) and a couple of moms congratulated me on the success of our book. It seems that word is spreading all across our town about The Christian Parenting Handbook. These women were under the impression that you couldn't get a copy of the book anywhere at this point in time. They wanted to make sure that I let everyone know that the book was still available. 

There were actually a number of parents standing around and I was able to tell them that this was a great resource for any parent regardless of their faith background. They wanted to check it out!

So, let me be perfectly clear. "Read my lips. No new ..." Oh that's a different subject. (Some of you younger folks may not get that joke!) You can still purchase the eBook from Amazon and Barnes and Noble.  If you purchase it by the end of the day on Sunday May 5, you can qualify for the $400.00 bonus package of parenting resources for free. This contains a sampling of many of our resources in digital and video formats. Just send your purchase confirmation to

Now I can hear you thinking, "I must have a real book in my hands. I don't do the Kindle or Nook thing. No problem. We've got you covered. The paperback edition is still available from the National Center for Biblical Parenting Store for $12.74 and those purchases qualify for the $400.00 bonus package deal. Same procedure. (Deal valid as long as supplies last!)

Now, I was telling you a story from the ball fields in Lawrence Little League. Anyone who knows me well can tell you that I love baseball. I love to watch, play and coach. I've coached at every level from 6 years old through High School. (The MCA Varsity Cougars and the TCHSA Varsity Falcons) I'm currently coaching a team of 6-7 year old players. We're working on having fun and learning the basic skills of the game. 
The TCHSA Falcons at the Homeschool World Series in May, 2012.

My philosophy of coaching has grown out of what I've learned about parenting and teaching over the past 25 years. We talk about the fact that "Parenting Is Heart Work" and I find that in coaching you have to connect on that level as well. You can know a lot about the game, but not be able to get through to kids. Even with the young players, I like to work on instructing and teaching before I jump to consequences. (See Chapter 3) I use firmness when necessary, but never anger. (See Chapter 21) If a consequence is necessary, I use "Take a break" (That's not the same as "Time Out.") Read Chapter  42 for more on the "break."

Actually, the principle from The Christian Parenting Handbook that I like to use most in my coaching (more with older kids) is the concept of honor. (Chapter 15) We like to say that honor changes people. It's about relationships. A family, just like a good baseball team, needs to be able to work well as a unit. Our definition of honor is "Treating people as special, doing more than what's expected and having a good attitude."

Our sons demonstrated that they had a grasp on this concept at the end of last year. They're both adults now and they are fine young men of good character. We returned home from vacation in December to find our whole house cleaned and a Christmas tree in place in the corner of the living room. Now that’s honor! It was a very touching moment for me as a father.

This heart-based approach has been revolutionary in my life. It’s helped me as a father, husband, leader, supervisor, coach, and in other areas. Behavior modification is effective if your only desire is to get your children to act a certain way. If you want to shape their character, you need to work on the level of the heart.

Let us know your thoughts or questions.


Milan Tomic

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  1. So grateful to have found this book while I still have my son home for a few more years. We have much to redeem, but I have faith we can. Thanks y'all!

  2. It's a pleasure Marcy. You have to stay the course through the teen years. It's not alway easy for the parents or the kids. They need to establish their identity distinct from that of their parents and that can cause a lot of friction. We need to love them through this important journey. Sometime in their 20's you'll see how all of your labors of love have produced good fruit!