Dealing With Sarcasm

Communication is like sitting at a table and passing messages back and forth. Anyone can take a piece of paper and a pencil, write down a message, and give it to anyone else across the table. A sarcastic remark, however, is like handing one piece of paper over the table and another one under the table. It sends mixed signals as the word message is inconsistent with the tone of voice. Family communication may sound like this:

"Yeah, you're too tired to take out the trash but just wait until your phone rings, then we'll see how tired you are." Or "I worked hard today. I didn't just sit around the house like some other people I know." Or "Sit around the house! I can't believe you. How come you're so smart with a computer but you can't seem to figure out how to work the vacuum cleaner?"

Some people are pretty quick when it comes to cutting others with their mouth. Bad communication habits become ingrained quickly so watch out for the sarcasm trap. A wise parent will hear sarcasm and gently ask questions about the hidden message. "The way you said that communicates that you're angry or frustrated with me?" or "You said 'right' as if you agreed, but I can tell by your tone of voice that you don't believe what I'm saying is true. Is that correct?"

Sarcasm isn't always wrong. Sometimes it's just a way of having fun. Many times, however, sarcasm is a way of stabbing someone in the back. Learn to recognize it and challenge it when it's used inappropriately. Some children and even adults have a lifestyle of using sarcasm. Those patterns can be hard to change, but challenging sarcasm can be a healthy step toward honest communication.

This parenting tip comes from the book Parenting is Heart Work by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

Milan Tomic

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  1. I like your article on parenting tips It really great and good way to deal with our teen...Thank you for such beautiful tip, Because I thought adult understanding of and agreement about our own values, we can identify values and virtues that we want to model and teach to our children.