Children Can Only Take as Much Pressure as the Relationship Will Allow

Children need correction and discipline. Their immaturity often requires that you take firm action. We’re advocates of firmness and setting tight boundaries for children in their areas of weakness in order to teach them how to live differently.

Discipline, however, must take place in the context of relationship. When the pressure must increase for a time in family life, be sure to also increase times of fun, affirmation, and closeness. The two must go together. Too many parents fail in this area, viewing themselves simply as disciplinarians. Emphasizing relationship illustrates the difference between a family and a military camp.

It’s important that children learn respect and responsiveness to authority, but that doesn’t mean that parents have to be demanding and harsh to teach these qualities to their children. Learning how to love in a family is important. It’s more than just the hug at bedtime. Love happens even in the challenges that we face. What does it mean to be loving when you have to discipline a child, say no to a request, or require a child to separate from something they’re involved in to follow an instruction?

Paul gives some helpful words of advice in Colossians 3:12 when he says “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Those aren’t the opposite of getting things done, correcting kids, or staying on schedule. In fact, those words illustrate for parents ways that they can add relationship to their parenting.

This idea about relationship is just one of the 50 strategies to strengthen your parenting found in the Parenting Shifts book by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

What are some ways you build relationship with your child?

Milan Tomic

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