Some Helpful Working Definitions

We want to be practical with children. That means that we give specific instructions about what we want them to do, not just what they shouldn't do. One way to be practical as we help children develop character is to use working definitions. We use these a lot in our counseling to help children understand life more. Here are some examples, but you can be creative and think of many more.

Obedience is doing what someone says, right away, without being reminded.

Honor is treating people as special, doing more than what's expected, and having a good attitude.

Perseverance is hanging in there even after you feel like quitting.

Attentiveness is showing people you love them by looking at them when they say their words.

Patience is waiting with a happy heart.

Self-discipline is putting off present rewards for future benefits.

Gratefulness is being thankful for the things I have instead of grumbling about the things I don't have.

You don't have to use them all. Just choose the one that your child needs right now and teach how to put that character quality into practice. Put them up around the house. This is a very positive way to give kids a vision for what you want. If you'd like to learn more about building character in your kids, visit us at

Do you have a practical definition you use with your child to help build character?

Milan Tomic

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  1. This came into our office today from Erik and Kristy Leaseburg.

    I loved the parenting tip today about working definitions. So I created this 1 pager to post on the fridge and review with the kids. Feel free to share with other parents.

    We liked it so much we've added it to our permanent downloads for parents. Check it out here:

  2. Thanks so much for this! You don't know how much I am looking forward to more practical ideas when we attend your seminar in Alabama in a couple of weeks. Your ministry is SUCH a blessing and indeed an answer to prayer!!!

  3. Initiative is doing something for others without being asked to, because you are thinking for yourself.