Recognizing Foolishness

One of the greatest sources of sibling conflict is foolishness. Children often don't recognize the future consequences of their present actions. Billy trips his younger sister. Karen teases her brother until he cries. These are examples of children not anticipating the consequences of their actions.

Foolishness is one of the three roadblocks to sibling harmony. Honor offers the solution. Honor teaches wisdom in relationships.

One of the ways that you can recognize foolishness is to listen for the flags. Excuses like, "I was just kidding" or "I didn't mean it" or "I was just playing around" or "I didn't do anything wrong" are all cues that a child is not taking responsibility for foolish behavior. Children often evaluate life in terms of black and white and when they do something foolish the behavior may not have been wrong. These children don't recognize that a good behavior can sometimes be wrong because it leads to something bad.

The first solution is to help children learn to take responsibility for their part of the problem. This is hard for many children who view mistakes as a sign of weakness. Help children take responsibility for foolishness and you will go a long way to teach them about wisdom.

You might ask, "What could you have done differently to avoid this problem?" This question helps children look at an offense a little differently. Instead of evaluating it based on right or wrong, now the behavior is judged based on its foresight and wisdom.

Of course the solution for foolishness is to help children learn wisdom. You want to help them anticipate the consequences of their actions. Tell stories of people who didn't see what was coming. And of course pray with your children because God says in James 1:5, "If you lack wisdom, ask God." To learn more about honor-based solutions to sibling conflict, consider reading the book Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes In You and Your Kids.

What are some ways you've been able to teach honor to siblings?
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2 comments:

  1. I have a phrase I use often, "We don't speak to one another that way in this family." This requires that Mom and Dad really have set an example of honoring speech. This also honors not only the siblings involved but also elevates the institution of our home as special and safe.

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  2. We constantly talk to our children about their heart motive. When one comes tattling to us, before we listen to a word we ask, "Why are you telling me this? Are you seeking to get brother in trouble, or are you seeking wise counsel in how to handle a tough situation? The Bible says that we are never to rejoice in another's affliction. So if your motive is to enjoy brother's punishment, you'd better rethink. If you want wise counsel, I'm available." They know the question is coming, so they are learning to check their own motives.

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