Don't Take The Bait

Be careful when your children bait you and try to draw you into a fight. If you’re easily sucked into an argument with your child, it may be an indication that you need to do some work on your own anger.

It's amazing that children are smart enough to find those buttons that will set us off, but what's more amazing is that parents take the bait. A child may say, "You never let me have a snack," and the parent all of a sudden is ready to fight. Or the child says, "Dad wouldn't do it this way," or "I don't want to go to school," and Mom goes into a tirade. Children know what it is that gets us. If you find those opportunities irresistible then you need to step back and deal with your own anger.

Now, don't get us wrong. Children who engage in manipulations like that need to be disciplined, but they don't need anger. There's a difference. Your anger points out a problem. That's what anger is good for. It tells you something is wrong. But anger isn't good for solving problems.

When you're tempted to get drawn into an argument, step back and evaluate the situation. Maybe it's time to change the buttons. Often, your children need limits placed on the way they're relating. Be careful to respond to your kids with appropriate discipline instead of reacting in a way that joins into their foolish arguments.

What are some ways you've been able to stay calm when your children push your buttons?
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  1. We hug. When I find myself beginning to blow a gasket, I just hug each one of my children. When they fight I make them hug. They are reluctant but it usually ends in a smile cause they feel silly and forget what they were arguing over. Also, I have asked my oldest, age 9, when he sees me getting angry to grab my hand and say "mom, you're getting angry, let's pray." What parent is going to say no and continue to yell. It forces me to stop, breath and ask God..."help". It also shows my children meekness. It has worked well.

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  2. I also hug and pray with my child. But now my child Micah is in this stage when I pray during his anger (we usually get angry at the same time) he pushes my buttons by saying things like "why are we praying to something thats fake> Gods not real, no one is listening to us". I just have to step back take a deep breath say a personal prayer for God to give me the right words to say and I usually end up lavishing him with things that God says about him/his possitive attributes. "you are so smart Micah" God has big plans for your future" You are so loved by God, me and your family." This usually puts a smile on his face, and a smile on mine too.

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