Some Kids Drain Energy Out of Family Life

Some children have the ability to suck the energy right out of family life. These children are demanding of your time, need a lot of correction, and seem to be magnets for conflict. They are often emotionally explosive but almost always drain the energy out of parents and other family members. Unfortunately then, these children develop a negative view of themselves based on the high amount of negative feedback they receive.

One solution is to teach them to add energy back into family life. We use the term "honor" to describe the process of thinking of others above yourself. If Jack seems to get people riled up each afternoon before dinner, set an appointment with him at 4:00 pm for several days in a row and ask him to look for three things he can do to add to family life. He may decorate the dinner table, encourage his brother, or prepare something nice for Dad's arrival home.

If Jack continually antagonizes his sister, tell him that he needs to think of three nice things to do for her before he can go on with family life. Don’t tell him exactly what he needs to do. If you decide what Jack needs to do and tell him to do it, that's obedience. When Jack chooses, that's honor. Honor treats people as special and does more than what's expected. Jack needs to learn how to add energy to family life instead of taking it away. Challenging children in this way helps them to think differently.

Teens need to learn honor because it will make them more successful in life. Hidden within honor are the secret ingredients that make people more productive in relationships. Teaching honor is worth the work, because honor changes people.

What are some ways that you see your children showing honor?
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Milan Tomic

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2 comments:

  1. My 14 year old son recently spent the last of his money buying a special (expensive!) birthday gift that his younger brother will really like. The brother's birthday is 2 months away, but he's already making all kinds of plans to make it special for him.

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  2. Thank you for this! A concise bit of wisdom at just the right time.

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