Thursday, September 18, 2014

The Value of Training

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Another Parenting Tip from The National Center for Biblical Parenting…
Every day you're training your children to become healthy responsible adults. Is it okay to get up and walk away in the middle of a meal? Is it acceptable to leave the table without helping to clean it up? Is it all right to eat without saying thank you to the one who prepared the meal? How will kids learn what's appropriate if you don't train them?

Unfortunately, as parents we get upset when our children need lots of correction or when they can't seem to change right away. It is true that some problems our children have take longer to overcome than others. Our response as parents is important, though. Our exasperation can damage the relationship. Firmness is important but the harshness can do more harm than good.

Kids make mistakes. Whether the errors are deliberate or accidental, children need a godly way to think in order to get back on track. Identify an issue you wish would change in one of your children. It might be arguing whenever you give an instruction or complaining when life doesn't go just right. Break the problem down and think of the alternatives you wish your child could do or think.

Talk about proper alternatives and look for positive ways to influence your child to maturity. You may have to use consequences to motivate change but don't neglect the potential of teaching new patterns of thinking, developing new skills, and giving children a vision for doing what's right.

Most of all, be patient. Training takes time and implies lots of work. You're a coach and your child is in training. Give your kids a vision for living life on a different level and they will grow into some great relating patterns.

For more ideas about working with a heart-based approach to parenting, consider Parenting is Heart Work 
by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

3 Ingredients for Passing Faith To Kids

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Biblical Parenting Podcast Episode #13: 3 Ingredients for Passing Faith To Kids



We have an awesome job as parents and passing our faith to our kids is our most important task. But how do we do it? In this episode Dr. Turansky outlines three ingredients that every parent can use to transfer faith to their children. Hear more at www.biblicalparenting.org/podcasts

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

The Value of Correction

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Another Parenting Tip from The National Center for Biblical Parenting…
Correcting children can be exasperating. Part of the problem is that children don't usually value correction. Instead they become defensive, offer excuses, blame others, or even blame themselves. These manipulative techniques cause children to miss the benefits of correction.

Of course, it's not just a kid problem. How do you respond when your spouse or co-worker offers some helpful criticism? What about from your children? Are you able to take advice from your child at times?

If you're going to help children learn to respond well to correction, you must start by giving them a vision for its benefits. Talk to your kids about things you've learned when others have corrected you. Invite your children to correct you in a particular area of your life you're working on. (Of course, they need to learn how to give advice or point out a problem in a gracious way!)

Explain how the poor responses people have deflect the correction and cause a person to not learn and grow. Explore with children the reasons why people don't like to be corrected. These discussions can open the door for children to rethink their own responses.

Proverbs is full of verses that talk about the value of correction. You might want to do a study of them with your children. One is Proverbs 12:1, "Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid." That sounds like the beginning of a great conversation with your child, doesn't it?

Heeding correction helps a person become wise. It's better to avoid a trap through correction than to fall into it and have to learn from experience. In fact, many of the valuable lessons of life are learned through correction in one form or another. Although children may not appreciate it, the correction they receive from you is a gift and your persistence can provide them with the wisdom they need both now and for the future.

For more on how to build a good Correction Routine with your children, read 
the book Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character In You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.  To gain some fun curriculum for kids that teaches the value of correction, consider the Treasure Hunters children’s curriculum for kids ages 3-12.

How to Use Consequences Strategically

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Biblical Parenting Podcast Episode #12: How to Use Consequences Strategically



"Now I understand why my consequences aren't working with my son." That's what one dad said after he heard the truths taught in this podcast. You can maximize heart change in your child by using consequences in the most effective way. This episode will give you some strategic ideas. Hear more at www.biblicalparenting.org/podcasts

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Teaching Kids Initiative

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Biblical Parenting Podcast Episode #11: Teaching Kids Initiative 



We do the same things every morning. Why do I have to keep telling them the same things over and over again? Why can't they just see what needs to be done and do it? If you find yourself making any of these statements, then this week's episode is for you. When parents change the way they parent then kids change the way they live. Let's teach them how to take initiative on their own. I'll show you how.  Hear more at www.biblicalparenting.org/podcasts