Monday, December 15, 2014

Parent the Heart Part II: Nine Functions of the Heart

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Relections from Ed Miller … 

Parenting Is Heart Work is one of my favorite books. I'm reading it again right now. I know, my wife is the co-author, but I really mean it. The book is based on a thorough study of the "heart" in the Bible. Most of the applications are about parenting, but the Biblical material about the importance of the heart is great material for everyone. 

“The LORD does not look at the things man looks
at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the
LORD looks at the heart.”


-- 1 SAMUEL 16:7

God has a heart-based approach to working with people. 
God is interested in hearts because that’s where real and lasting change takes place. 

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A focus on getting the right actions down teaches children image management. The message our children hear is that behavior is what’s important. Who cares about the heart?

It’s time for a heart revolution in parenting. 

Behavior modification often works for the short term, but it does little to mold a child’s heart for the future. It’s like building a house of cards. No foundation and no depth mean the child’s whole life could fall apart at any moment.

BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION APPEALS TO CHILDRENRESIDENT SELFISHNESS.

There’s much at stake in raising children. When we take a heart approach to parenting, we partner with God in raising a future generation. Children learn to make changes on the inside, not just outwardly. Those changes last and become the basis for conviction and values that our children will carry with them for the rest of their lives.

Real heart solutions in children’s lives start with your own
heart as a parent. One night when our boys were very young, I was taking care of them while Joanne was at work. I don't remember the specifics of what happened that night, but I remember being filled with anger in my heart. It scared me because I was starting to lose control. I didn't know what to do, so I sought out the help of a counselor. I wanted to get at the root causes producing these strong emotions. Over the coming months, I did a lot of interior work and God changed my heart. This was just the first of many times I had to take a step back and examine my heart.

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More than 750 verses in the Bible use the term heartIt’s where longings grow, secrets are kept, pain is felt, plans are devised, commitments solidify, and character is developed. In short, the heart is a person’s center, the deepest spot in one’s life. The Bible talks about nine different functions of the heart. I'll list them all for you here and you can read about them in Parenting Is Heart Work. You can get started right now by completing a simple form and then downloading the first 38 pages of the book for free. 

The Nine Functions of the Heart

1. The Heart is a Wrestling Place
2. The Heart is the Place of Commitments and Determination
3. The Heart Is Where We Feel Close to Others
4. The Heart is Where We Experience Emotions
5. The Heart is Where Temptations and Desires Develop
6. The Heart Experiences Guilt and Conviction of Sin
7. The Heart Experiences Passion
8. The Heart Chooses Values to Hold and Convictions to Live By
9. The Heart Is Where We Connect with God

Let's focus on the heart!

I'd like to introduce you to my friends, Tom and Julie Meekins. Tom was my roommate in college and he and Julie are now presenters with the National Center for Biblical Parenting. They are our Specialists for Families With Children Dealing with Challenges and know a lot about health and nutrition and how that can impact behavior in children. Tom and Julie are doing a FREE class on 12/17 at 1:00 pm. Consider joining us for this class.

December 17th, 1:00 PM Eastern – FREE Webinar “Rocking the Holidays with Children with Challenges”. In your heart of hearts, you want this time of year to be magical for your child, joy to reign in your home, and peace to be prominent. Join us for this FREE Webinar to get tips to calm the chaos and create great memories. Register NOW for a series of emails with strategies to begin right away planning your best holidays ever. If you can’t make it live, a link to the recording will be sent to everyone who registers. Tell a friend!

Finally, you may have heard that Scott and Joanne have a new book coming out early next year. Yes, that's right, another book! And this may be the best one yet. This book is for those parents who really want to dig deeply and understand how to make an impact on your child's inner life. Here's what Scott and Joanne have to say about this book.

“This is the most important and most strategic book I’ve written. The greatest gift parents can give to their kids is a strong conscience and a vibrant faith. Kids become internally motivated and their lives open up dramatically. Parents are amazed when they see the changes.” 
—Dr. Scott Turansky



"Kids who are strong-willed don't typically respond to the reward/punishment approaches commonly used. That's because they're internally motivated already. This book will help you guide their internal motivation to do the right thing."
—Joanne Miller, RN, BSN

Pre-Order a copy now at any online retail outlet and get a Bonus Package of resources for FREE!

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Leave us a thought or comment on this article or tell us your best "heart parenting" story.

Teaching Kids to Serve Others at Christmas

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Another Parenting Tip from The National Center for Biblical Parenting…
Sometimes children believe that the whole world revolves around them. Parents, because they enjoy caring for their kids, may at times contribute to a child-centered mentality and further reinforce this misconception. Children can get the impression that parents, siblings, and even the family pets are there simply to make them happy. The result is demandingness and an unpleasant attitude.

One of the ways to counteract this tendency is to teach children to be servants and Christmas is a great time to start. Planning and giving gifts, preparing food treats for others, setting the table, and cleaning up Christmas messes are all ways to demonstrate servanthood. You might have your children take turns giving out the gifts that are under the tree instead of just finding their own to open.

Listening to others, watching family members open gifts, saying thank you, sharing, and looking for ways to help are all ideas for kids to demonstrate a servant attitude at Christmastime.

Use the word "servant" and teach children about its positive meaning in life. Talk about how being a servant is really a gift to others. After all, Jesus became a servant by becoming a man and coming to earth as our Savior (Philippians 2:5).

If you’d like to make an end of the year gift to further the ministry of the National Center for Biblical Parenting, click here.

To learn more about connecting with your child's heart, consider the
 fourth quarter special, Parenting is Heart Workby Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN

Wednesday, December 10, 2014

The Heart of Christmas

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Another Parenting Tip from The National Center for Biblical Parenting…
With so much advertising and emphasis on presents, programs, and parties, take some time to teach your children about the real meaning of Christmas. It's so easy to get distracted by the celebration that one discussion or Christmas program isn't enough to help children catch the meaning and significance of what Christmas is really all about. Here are some suggestions.

Have a daily or weekly reminder of the Christmas story. Use an advent calendar or read through the Christmas story in the next two weeks.

Tell children what the first Christmas was really like. Did you know that a manger is a cow's eating dish? How far is it from Nazareth to Bethlehem anyway? That would be like walking all the way from our home to _____. What was an Inn like? What were the shepherds doing out with the sheep at night? Did you know that the Bible doesn't say that there were three wise men? Maybe there were ten. Help children think about the story differently than they have before.

Write to a missionary family and find out how they are celebrating Christmas. Talk to your children about how cultures have different traditions but the real meaning of Christmas is the same.

And talk about God's gift of salvation. Why did God start Christmas in the first place? How does his gift change who we are? Keep in mind that this may be time that your child dedicates himself or herself to the Lord in a new and special way.

Christmas is a special time where memories are created that last a lifetime. Take some time to plan your Christmas season carefully to make sure the things you do and say have lasting value.

What have you done with your kids to emphasize the real meaning of Christmas?

Monday, December 8, 2014

Have You Heard of Book Fun Magazine?

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Reflections by Ed Miller …


I want to introduce you to Nora and Fred St. Laurent. I met Nora at a book signing in the Atlanta area back in June of 2014 and I'm just starting to get to know Fred. They are an amazing couple who have a passion for reading and for books. I'm sure they would agree that "Books Are Wonderful!" They also love to share the real "behind the scenes" stories of authors with their readers. They're doing this through Book Fun Magazine and the Book Club Network, Inc. 

Did you know that there are Christian book clubs all around the world? They're usually connected with local bookstores and they provide a place for people who love to read to connect and share with other like-minded readers. They all read books and come together for fellowship and discussion. The leaders of more than 2000 of these clubs form the Book Club Network, Inc.  Nora was leading a club through a local bookstore and decided to bring these folks all together by starting the Book Club Network. Did you know about this? I was clueless until recently.

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In 2012, Nora and Fred teamed up to launch Book Fun Magazine. It's growing like wildfire. The readership has grown beyond 400,000 and is composed primarily of people who are passionate about books as well as many other things. They are projecting a million readers by the end of 2015. Their success seems to be based on the the power of story. All of the articles in the magazine focus on life-changing stories. Authors share stories from their journey. Readers get to know another side of their favorite authors.   Philip Yancey shares about his love for hiking in the December issue and tells the story of his "Longest Day." It's a unique approach and becoming very popular. 

If you didn't already know about Book Fun, I wanted to make sure you no longer had an excuse. You can get a free preview of the magazine at any time and the annual subscription is very reasonable. The December issue also features an article by Dr. Scott Turansky where he shares about "heart changes" in his life over the past year. He shares other stories that you may have never read or heard before. The magazine is almost 300 pages in total and it's packed with great articles and information. Many of the Book Fun readers are parents and we expect them to be very interested in Scott's story. We've also placed an ad for Parenting Is Heart Work in this issue. 

Why not take a look and tell your friends!
If you haven't yet read this ground-breaking title, you can get started by downloading the 38-page FREE preview right now. You'll learn about the 9 functions of the heart that came out of our study of the heart in the Bible. It's a great read.
You can get the paperback edition for 20% off this month and the Kindle eBook is selling for just $2.99 for the month of December. 

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“Wow! Parenting is Heart Work is simply a masterpiece! It’s got it all. In this book, Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller have successfully re-directed parenting toward the most important issue of life—the heart. It has my highest recommendation and we have chosen it to be our resource for parents at Awana this year!”
                  — Larry Fowler, Executive Director, AWANA

Are you committed to "parent the heart"? Please let us know so that we can better gauge our level of impact? It'll take just a few minutes to complete a simple form.

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What's your favorite book from 2014?


We'd love to hear what you're reading and enjoying. Please leave a comment.

The $300 Parenting Unchained Giveaway ends tonight, but there's still time to enter. You can also get the eBook on Kindle this week for just $.99! I just purchased a copy for my Kindle.

    Parenting Unchained Kindle Paperwhite Giveaway
To celebrate the release of Parenting Unchained: Overcoming the Ten Deceptions That Shackle Christian Parents, we are joining other memebers of the Launch Team in a wonderful giveaway filled with a Kindle Paperwhite, $25 Amazon Gift Card and several biblical parenting products! A value of more than $300! Here's what you could win:

Kindle Paperwhite 6" eReader ($119 value)  

Unlike tablets, Kindle Paperwhite is designed to deliver a superior reading experience:
  • No screen glare in bright sunlight
  • Read with one hand—over 30% lighter than iPad mini
  • Battery lasts weeks, not hours
  • Built-in light—read without eyestrain
Your Kindle comes loaded with 2 biblical parenting books right at the start:

Parenting Unchained Kindle Edition ($4.99 value)

In Parenting Unchained – Overcoming the Ten Deceptions that Shackle Christian Parents, Dr. James D. Dempsey reveals the ten most destructive lies about parenting. He writes from the heart about the way these lies infected his own parenting, and illuminates the Bible's powerful truths that counter each lie. Both Biblical and practical, each section ends with home activities to help parents take immediate steps to develop their kids' character--character that lasts when they leave home.

Home Improvement Kindle Edition ($4.99 value)

This book contains eight principles every family needs written by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN. You'll learn practical, handon ideas for helping your kids deal with their anger, constructive ways to end discipline times, and keys that will help children change their hearts, not just their behavior. Turansky and Miller offer tried and true strategies in a refreshingly new family-friendly format. This is the parenting book you can read to your kids.

$25 Amazon Gift Card 

Buy even more books for your new Kindle!

The Christian Parenting Handbook and Companion Guide ($39.85 value) 

The Christian Parenting Handbook contains nuggets of parenting wisdom condensed into 50 short chapters, each one biblical, practical, and relevant for parents of children ages 2-18. Learn appropriate ways to correct, instruct, and set limits. Glean wisdom for dealing with emotions, conflict, and developing closeness in your family… and much more. These 50 strategies provide you with hands-on tools for parenting children of any age.  The Companion Guide is a workbook of 50 lessons along with 50 audio tips to take you through The Christian Parenting Handbook step by step. Each lesson contains advice from Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller in a 5 minute audio tip and then offers teaching, an assignment, a Bible verse, and a prayer to help you apply each idea or strategy in your family. The tips are available to you as MP3 downloads and access to them comes in the workbook.

The Family Toolbox ($99.95 value)

The Family Toolbox has 8 lessons. Each one has a 1-2 minute scene of a family living life and experiencing common challenges in their relationships. A discussion guide prompts dialogue between parents and teens and a 10-minute teaching session for parents featuring Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN gives practical tools to use right away. As your family works through the lessons, teens learn 16 Life Success Principles and parents learn valuable tools.

Philippians in 28 Weeks Digital ($18.95 value)

It is easier to share the Word of God when it is etched upon your heart. Philippians in 28 Weeks™ is a delightful and painless way to commit the entire book of Philippians to memory. This streamlined approach uses memory cards carefully constructed to present Philippians thought-by-thought, copywork versesjournal questionsweekly reflections,recitation charts to test your retention, and an optional tracking tool called “The Log.”

To enter the giveaway, use the Rafflecopter below. U.S. residents, age 18 and older. Void where prohibited by law.


Thursday, December 4, 2014

Introducing Dr. Jim Dempsey

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Author Interview with Dr. Jim Dempsey

I have the privilege of working on the Family Ministry Consultation Team with Dr Jim Dempsey. It's been a pleasure to get to know Jim and Gail over the past few years. He's also becoming one of our more sought after presenters at the National Center for Biblical Parenting. I believe that his new book addresses a very important issue in the area of parenting. Awareness of deception allows us to plan for change. Continue on and get to know Jim better. 

Jim Dempsey

Family Pastor and Children’s Minister in Austin, Texas. Author of Parenting UnChained-Overcoming the Ten Deceptions that Shackle Christian Parents. I’m passionate about helping Christian parents create a “Deuteronomy 6″ culture in their homes.
You’re an author. Can you tell us about your book?
The book’s title, Parenting Unchained, reflects the freedom that parents can experience IF they understand the way Satan tries to deceive them. You can’t avoid the pitfalls you don’t see!
What was the motivation for writing the book?Jim
I felt that the Bible has much more to say about parenting than the few verses that speak specifically to parents. I saw in God’s interaction with the nation of Israel, and in Jesus’ interaction with the disciples, many great lessons on how to parent, so those lessons are explained. But most of all, I want Christian parents to avoid the parenting mistakes I made so that Christ becomes real to the next generation.

You are self published. What has that been like?
I was blessed to be able to publish under the banner of the National Center for Biblical Parenting, so in some ways the process was similar to traditional publishing. Working with them gave me the ability to put their logo on the spine, which brings credibility. They provided the cover artist and interior designer, plus advice on formatting. Dr. Scott Turansky of the NCBP provided the ‘tough love’ editing I needed to improve the book. I’m very grateful to him and proud to be associated with the NCBP.
What will we learn as we read your book?
Because churches need to involve and train parents, I try to promote close interaction between parents and children’s ministry workers. Participants will learn essential attitudes and actions kidmin workers must cultivate in order to involve parents. You have to make these connections and build relationship before you can train them.
Who should read the book and why?
Anyone involved in children’s ministry, including senior pastors, children’s ministers and teachers will benefit. Parents are the key to developing the next generation of spiritual champions, so we need to connect with parents and form partnerships with them. A great way to start is to get them involved in the ministry to children at church.
Where can we find your book?
On Amazon.
You can also purchase Parenting Unchained at the NCBP web store.
Where can we find your website or contact you?
Website: http://d6culture.comContact: http://d6culture.com/wordpress1/contact-us/
I hope you're entered the $300 Parenting Unchained Giveaway. You have to enter to win!

    Parenting Unchained Kindle Paperwhite Giveaway
To celebrate the release of Parenting Unchained: Overcoming the Ten Deceptions That Shackle Christian Parents, we are joining other memebers of the Launch Team in a wonderful giveaway filled with a Kindle Paperwhite, $25 Amazon Gift Card and several biblical parenting products! A value of more than $300! Here's what you could win:

Kindle Paperwhite 6" eReader ($119 value)  

Unlike tablets, Kindle Paperwhite is designed to deliver a superior reading experience:
  • No screen glare in bright sunlight
  • Read with one hand—over 30% lighter than iPad mini
  • Battery lasts weeks, not hours
  • Built-in light—read without eyestrain
Your Kindle comes loaded with 2 biblical parenting books right at the start:

Parenting Unchained Kindle Edition ($4.99 value)

In Parenting Unchained – Overcoming the Ten Deceptions that Shackle Christian Parents, Dr. James D. Dempsey reveals the ten most destructive lies about parenting. He writes from the heart about the way these lies infected his own parenting, and illuminates the Bible's powerful truths that counter each lie. Both Biblical and practical, each section ends with home activities to help parents take immediate steps to develop their kids' character--character that lasts when they leave home.

Home Improvement Kindle Edition ($4.99 value)

This book contains eight principles every family needs written by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN. You'll learn practical, hands-on ideas for helping your kids deal with their anger, constructive ways to end discipline times, and keys that will help children change their hearts, not just their behavior. Turansky and Miller offer tried and true strategies in a refreshingly new family-friendly format. This is the parenting book you can read to your kids.

$25 Amazon Gift Card 

Buy even more books for your new Kindle!

The Christian Parenting Handbook and Companion Guide ($39.85 value) 

The Christian Parenting Handbook contains nuggets of parenting wisdom condensed into 50 short chapters, each one biblical, practical, and relevant for parents of children ages 2-18. Learn appropriate ways to correct, instruct, and set limits. Glean wisdom for dealing with emotions, conflict, and developing closeness in your family… and much more. These 50 strategies provide you with hands-on tools for parenting children of any age.  The Companion Guide is a workbook of 50 lessons along with 50 audio tips to take you through The Christian Parenting Handbook step by step. Each lesson contains advice from Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller in a 5 minute audio tip and then offers teaching, an assignment, a Bible verse, and a prayer to help you apply each idea or strategy in your family. The tips are available to you as MP3 downloads and access to them comes in the workbook.

The Family Toolbox ($99.95 value)

The Family Toolbox has 8 lessons. Each one has a 1-2 minute scene of a family living life and experiencing common challenges in their relationships. A discussion guide prompts dialogue between parents and teens and a 10-minute teaching session for parents featuring Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN gives practical tools to use right away. As your family works through the lessons, teens learn 16 Life Success Principles and parents learn valuable tools.

Philippians in 28 Weeks Digital ($18.95 value)

It is easier to share the Word of God when it is etched upon your heart. Philippians in 28 Weeks™ is a delightful and painless way to commit the entire book of Philippians to memory. This streamlined approach uses memory cards carefully constructed to present Philippians thought-by-thought, copywork versesjournal questionsweekly reflections,recitation charts to test your retention, and an optional tracking tool called “The Log.”

To enter the giveaway, use the Rafflecopter below. U.S. residents, age 18 and older. Void where prohibited by law.


Wednesday, December 3, 2014

Christmas is about Generosity

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Another Parenting Tip from The National Center for Biblical Parenting…
Christmas is a highlight in the life of most children, but much of the benefit is focused on what they get. Of course one of the blessings of Christmas is giving, so look for ways to teach children generosity this year. Here are some ideas:

Involves kids in your gift giving strategy or help them develop their own. Planning, shopping, and wrapping can each provide ways for children to think about blessing others.

Anticipate with your children the delight others will experience when the gifts are opened. Help your child enjoy the fun others will have when receiving gifts.

Ask children the question "What are you doing this year to make Christmas special for someone else?" This question alone can help young children as well as teens think of others instead of just themselves. A short discussion can help move kids from selfish tendencies to generosity. The joy of giving is usually discovered only through the practice of giving, so make thinking of others a requirement.

And most importantly, remind children of the generosity of God by sending us the most special gift: his Son.

Generosity is a heart quality. To learn more about developing heart qualities in your children, take a look at chapter 8 in the book, Home Improvement, the Parenting Book You Can Read to Your Kids, by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

Monday, December 1, 2014

Parent the Heart Part I

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Reflections from Ed Miller … 

We're leading a revolution in family and parenting ministry and we've just launched the "Parent the Heart" Campaign. We invite you to join the team.

There are many ways that you can be involved. We're in Phase 1 right now and running through the end of the year. 

1) Download your FREE pages from Parenting is Heart Work and learn more about the 9 functions of the heart. I'll tell you more about this Biblical study in my next blog post, Parent the Heart Part II.

2) Stand up and be counted. 

3) Donate now. 

Goal: $27,000.00 by December 31, 2014

We're asking you to invest financial resources in this campaign. The ROI (Return on Investment) is a doubling of the number of converts to heart-based parenting in 2015. Keep reading to learn more about this.

As a thank you for your investment, we'll give you access to a 30-minute video where you’ll learn how to Parent the Heart. If you donate $200.00 or more, we'll add a "Parent the Heart" shirt that you can wear as a conversation starter.


This is the Mission in 2015 …

Convert parents from the overuse of a reward/punishment system
       
             … to a "parent the heart" approach.

This is the Goal …

Double the number in 2015. In Phase 2, we'll bring all our resources to bear and see how the Lord works to bring the increase.

We're very excited about getting Parenting is Heart Work into the hands of many parents this month. It's the 4th Quarter Special in our web store. It's also available as an eBook for $2.99 at all online retail outlets throughout the month of December. We have a team of bloggers reading the book right now and they'll be posting their reviews starting on Dec. 3, 2014. 

Motivate Your Child launches on January 27, 2015.  The release of a new book provides a window of opportunity to get this message out through many media outlets. We plan to take advantage of this opportunity to "strike while the iron is hot." We have many exciting plans to share with you soon.

We'll be recruiting Launch Teams very soon. Bloggers will need to apply for the Blogger Launch Team, but everyone is welcome to join the General Launch Team. 

Tell us your story about "parenting the heart" in the comments below. Can you tell us a time when you were able to significantly connect with your child's heart through correction, reflection, or some unplanned event?