Monday, January 26, 2015

Are You Ready for the Launch?

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Reflections from Ed Miller...


Tomorrow is "Launch Day" for 
Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller's new book, Motivate Your Child.  There are a lot of great things planned for this week and I'll be posting every day this week. Subscribe now so you won't miss any of the fun. Have pre-ordered your copy yet? There's still time to get the $150 Bonus Parenting Pack. You have until the end of the week We're all very excited here. This is going to be an amazing week. Before I get too excited about what's coming up, let me share a couple of other items.



Pastor John Turansky, Scott's father, passed away this past weekend.  His health had been failing and he caught the flu last week so it wasn't looking good. Scott received a text once he got off the flight from Chattanooga Saturday night informing him of his father's passing. The Turansky Family was able to be together to celebrate John's life earlier this month and that was a tremendous blessing. John is definitely enjoying sweet fellowship now with His Lord and Savior, but there is still the feeling of loss for John's wife Shirley and the family. I know they would be grateful for your prayers. I'll share a longer tribute to Pastor John Turansky in tomorrow's post.


The Turansky Men - Hudson, Josh, John, Scott and Hayden
Scott, Joanne and Marie were at CPC East last week. We've been going to INCM's Children's Pastors Conference now for many years. This is the premier annual event for Children's Ministry pastors, volunteer leaders and teachers. These folks all love kids and they enjoy coming together to hear great speakers and learn from each other. There is also a huge Exhibit Hall where they can see the latest curriculum, resources and tools for ministering to kids. It's quite impressive. I'm sad that I wasn't able to attend this year. 

One of the reasons that we keep on going to this event is because of the growing trend among KidMin folks to focus on ministry to the whole family. The church has a pretty limited window of opportunity to impact kids. Kids spend the bulk of their time at home, at school or in their community. So, if you want to have a stung impact on kids, you have to support and strengthen families and equip parents. And of course, that's a big part of what we do. We offer resources that church leaders can use to strengthen families and equip parents. Motivate Your Child is just the newest resource available for this purpose.


Scott, Marie and Joanne at CPC East
Does your church seek to strengthen families and equip parents? Does your church know about the tools and resources offered by the National Center for Biblical Parenting? If not, why don't you share this with your church leadership. We offer a FREE FAMILY MINISTRY CONSULTATION for any church leaders in person or over the phone. 




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We also offer free email parenting tips and lots of free resources for churches to use as they seek to strengthen families and equip parents. For instance, we have a couple of great resources that build vision and provide practical tools for developing an exciting "Family Time" at home. Christian Discipleship is as much "caught" as it is "taught." Young people learn how to follow Jesus as they observe and interact with other who are struggling to live out their faith in the real world. Check out 2 exciting videos that are available at no cost on our website.  



Actually, I think that's enough for this post. I'm going to write about the launch every day this week. In closing, let me remind you to join us for the Facebook Release Party on Thursday evening. Scott will be answering your parenting questions and we'll be giving away a lot of wonderful prizes including a full year of FREE HOUSEKEEPING valued at $1500. You can RSVP right now and then you'll get a reminder. The Party actually takes place on our NCBP Facebook Page. 


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Wednesday, January 21, 2015

How Do You Engage Your Kids Spiritually?

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Reflections on How to Motivate Your Child - The Story of Mark

      - by Dr. Scott Turansky

This article is the second in the "Discussion Wednesdays" Series dealing with ways you can implement the teaching presented in the book Motivate Your Child.

Mark was twelve years old when his parents realized that he was pulling away from spiritual things. He didn’t want to pray at dinner, seemed to merely endure church, and was more interested in his electronics and friends than spiritual things. Dad and Mom saw a tendency in their son and they wanted to do something about it now before Mark became one of those statistics of kids who leave the church after they graduate from high school. Here’s what they did, and it worked!

Scott, Marie and Joanne at the CPC East Conference
Dad and Mom determined to add an exciting devotional experience for Mark and his two younger sisters. They called it Family Time. Once a week, Dad and Mom would prepare one activity that illustrated a biblical truth. One week Dad told the kids to get their running shoes on for devotions. That puzzled them all and they came to the Family Time with a sense of anticipation. Dad read them the parable of the man who found the treasure in the field and sold all he had to buy that field so that he could own the treasure. Then Dad told them that he had created a number of clues in the back yard with a treasure at the end. He handed the first clue to Mark that said, “Look under the trash can.” Mark ran with his sisters out to the backyard and started the hunt. After about eight clues he ended up finding a plastic container filled with their favorite cookies that Mom had made. Then they talked about why the truths of God are worth so much.

The next week they talked about withstanding the fiery darts of the devil with the shield of faith as described in Ephesians 6:16. They took rolled up socks and threw them at each other and used a pillow as a shield to ward them off. Then they talked about temptations that might harm each of them.


Another time Mom read 1 Thessalonians 5:11, “Build one another up.” The activity that day was to build a human pyramid and then talk about ways that we tear down and build each other up in our family.

The kids were excited for devotions each week. Dad and Mom continued their mission to engage the children spiritually and help them develop a living and active faith. Every couple of days they asked the question, “How did you see God work today?” At first, the children didn’t know what to say, but Dad and Mom gave them ideas including ones they could relate to. Mom told about the beautiful sunset she enjoyed and Dad told about an answer to prayer about a difficult meeting at work. They prayed more specifically as a family, asking God to show them each how they could fit into his plan.

Dad and Mom were surprised when Mark came home from school and said, “When are you going to ask us the question?”

“What question?”

“The one about seeing God work?”

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Mark had a story to tell and as he shared it at dinner, his parents smiled because they were seeing their son become spiritually engaged.

Dad and Mom also told the pastor at church that they, as a family, would help with greeting every other week. Mark began to see church as a place to give and serve, not just as a place to meet friends or learn.

Mark is growing spiritually because his parents are looking for practical ways to engage him with what God wants to do in him personally. God wants to work in the lives of children. Parents can be the facilitators of that growth. What might God have you do in the next few months to excite your children about the Lord?

Dr. Scott Turansky is a co-founder of the National Center for Biblical Parenting. He and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN have written 13 books on parenting, trained over 120 presenters to teach live parenting seminars, and they themselves teach around the country most every week.


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How Do You Engage Your Kids Spiritually?

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Thursday, January 15, 2015

Parent Training Seminars Change Lives!

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Our travel season is now underway. Dr. Turansky and Mrs. Miller travel to some part of the country almost every week to do a Church Event or speak at a convention. They teach as many as 3 different seminars or 5 workshops in any one location. This week, Turansky and Miller will travel to Lubbock, TX for seminars on Thursday and Friday evening.

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Over 120 presenters have been trained by the National Center for Biblical Parenting. (NCBP) They teach a dynamic and practical seminar entitled Cooperation, Consequences, and Keeping Your Sanity. By examining the way you give instructions and how you correct children, you can have a significant impact on their hearts. This seminar is drawn from material developed by Scott and Joanne in Parenting Is Heart Work and Good and Angry. This seminar inspires parents with a new way of approaching parenting and then gives them hope through practical and "easy to implement" tools and strategies. 

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And then you have me! I primarily do hour-long workshops at
conventions, but this weekend, I'll be doing a 3-hour parent training event in Milford. The topic is Parenting Is Heart Work. This seminar will contain material from a number of these other programs. Please join me if you live in Central New Jersey or Eastern, PA. 


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I've heard it said that parents won't come to parent training events. They're too busy and they feel like they're just going to be told what a bad job their doing as parents. They'll go away feeling like a failure with less hope than before they attended. It is true that it's not easy to get parents to come to these events. And it's also true that parents are fearful that they'll just feel guilty and depressed after attending. 
Let me tell you that parents who actually come to one of our live events have exactly the opposite reaction most of the time. They feel empowered and hopeful with new and practical tools for dealing with the overwhelming challenges of parenting. 

Here's what one parent shared with us recently.  

I've been applying the principles you taught us to my 4-year old son when he disobeys or has a bad attitude. They really work. I've been at a loss until now on how to discipline him because he's very stubborn and impulsive. The strategy of "words first", then "take a break," then "consequences" has really hit home with him. 


For example, one morning he refused to help me clean up our playroom so I told him that he had to go in the "take a break" chair until he was ready to help clean. I also told him it was until he changed the feeling in his heart about the situation. He sat there for a couple of minutes and then came running in and said, "I'm sorry mom!" and started cleaning up immediately. Because it was on his terms when he got out of the break chair, he was willing to be compliant. Every other form of disciple has not worked with this child. THANK YOU!! 


Click on the link below the video if you'd like more information about how to bring a live seminar to your area. We offer parents HOPE with a new approach and practical tools to implement that approach. 



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Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Does Your Child Have a Problem With Anger?

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Reflections on How to Motivate Your Child - Daniel 

      - by Dr. Scott Turansky

This article is one in a series of ways that you can implement the teaching presented in the book Motivate Your Child.

Daniel, a ten-year-old pitcher on a Little League team, had a significant problem with anger. He would get angry on the mound and either explode or just give up. The problem wasn’t just during baseball games though, it happened other times too when he got frustrated with his homework or when his parents asked him to do something that he didn’t want to do.

His parents had tried all kinds of things to help him make changes. Nothing seemed to work. When he came to us he was discouraged. But, as we described our plan for change, he became hopeful about implementing the new strategies. In just a few weeks he made major changes in his life. In this case, we used three Cs to help him change. Here’s what happened.

I told Daniel, “We first have to figure out what the problem is. Let me ask you some questions so that we can understand exactly where you’re getting off track. What sparks your anger? Is it just when you make a bad pitch?” Daniel appreciated the fact that I listened to him.

With some dialogue we discovered together the first C, the cue. In order to help Daniel change, we knew that we needed to help him see the triggers in very practical and specific ways. These couldn’t be general but had to be something that he could see as his anger began to develop. Daniel identified that the cue that sparked his anger was a series of bad pitches. One bad pitch wasn’t the problem. It’s when he had several in a row.

He was now ready for the second C: conscience. I explained to him that the conscience was placed in his heart to prompt him when he started to get off track or when the energy associated with anger started to build inside. Our goal was to identify that promptings and train his conscience so that he could know what he should do and say to himself when he faced the challenge in the moment.
Since the conscience makes a person feel comfortable or uncomfortable and because it prompts us to do what’s right or correct wrongs, Daniel needed a bit of training to take advantage of this new found asset in his heart.

We helped him identify some things he could say to himself while on the mound. When his pitching wasn’t going as well as he liked, sometimes he would just laugh it off. Other times he would tell himself to focus on the next pitch. Other times he would critique what he did wrong. Maybe he dropped his shoulder or started with his feet in the wrong place. As he developed a plan to coach himself, his anger diminished greatly.

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The key to this part of Daniel’s plan was that he helped develop it. He decided what things would be helpful to say to himself. The list he wrote down would be used and adjusted over time. It took some practice for him to tie the cue to the conscience prompting, so he needed the coaching of others for a bit to get things started. But it worked, he began to slow down his anger and choose other responses.

But the two Cs are not complete without the last one: character. We explained to Daniel that the conscience doesn’t control anger, character does. In the same way, the conscience doesn’t clean his room, character does. And furthermore, the conscience doesn’t get his homework done, character does. Daniel was in process. He needed to build character in his life to meet the challenges he was facing. If he did, then these same character-based solutions would help him all through life.

The idea of the 3 Cs gave Daniel a plan, but it did much more than that. It gave him perspective to see that the current challenges he was facing were part of something bigger. He needed to respond well to these problems he was facing right now, and they would help him do better in the future. That thought alone gave him more drive to master his anger, and learn to respond better to his challenge of feeling emotionally overwhelmed.

We could see the hope in Daniel’s eyes. He seemed eager to get on the mound and try out his new plan. It took some practice, but he embraced the challenge in the same way he practiced his pitching skills. All we needed now was time for the plan to work itself out.
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The plan worked for Daniel and he was able to make significant strides in his maturity in just a few weeks. In fact, it wasn’t long before Daniel was telling the rest of the players on the team that they needed to go see Dr. Turansky. We ended up conducting an anger workshop for the parents and the players. Parents and students found the solutions helpful and that they could use them on the playing field and elsewhere. Essentially, we helped them develop self-control by introducing a personalized plan.

You might want to check out the book Motivate Your Child:The Christian Parent’s Guide to Raising Kids who Do What They Need to DoWithout Being Told and it’s companion book the Motivate Your Child Action Plan.

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Does Your Child Have a Problem with Anger? Where and When Does It Happen?

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Monday, January 12, 2015

Join us for Prayer

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We're going to try a unique approach to prayer as part of the launch of  Motivate Your Child. Have you ever been part of a "Conference Call" Prayer Meeting? We have friends and champions of the "parent the heart" approach who live all over the country and all over the world. We'll never be able to come together in any one location for prayer. So, we're going to come together through the vehicle of a "Conference Call."

It will work like this. 
  1. Call in using the Conference Call Number and enter the code that we'll provide.
  2. I'll be hosting the call and I'll share a brief introduction before we start to pray.
  3. Anyone can lead us in prayer on the call. Once there's a brief silence, you can start with your name and then pray. 
  4. I'll close the prayer time at the specified time.
  5. I'll continue on the call to answer questions about the book launch.
I think this is going to be a great way to come together in prayer. We'll try one and see how it goes.
  • Thursday January 15, 2015 at 10:00 pm EST.
We'll go for about 30 minutes and end at 10:30 pm.

You can join the Prayer Meeting by doing the following:
  1. Call: (605) 475-3235
  2. Enter the Access Code: 811174#
If you have any problems, send me an email: ed@biblicalparenting.org.
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Motivate Your Child Launch Giveaway

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One of the things I love about a book launch is the giveaways. Everyone loves to enter a contest in the hope of winning a valuable prize package. It's just a lot of fun and exciting to share with others. People who wouldn't necessarily take much note of the book, will gain valuable exposure because of this giveaway. It's another way to extend the reach of the "parent the heart" approach. 

To celebrate the release of Motivate Your Child: A Christian Parent's Guide to Raising Kids Who Do What They Need to Do Without Being Told,  members of the Launch Team are sharing a wonderful giveaway filled with a Go Pro Camera, $50 Mardel Gift Card, $25 Amazon Gift Card, and book bundles from both the National Center for Biblical Parenting and Thomas Nelson Publishing! Three winners will win prizes with a total value of nearly $800!

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Here’s what you could win: 

GRAND PRIZE  ($500+ value)

Go Pro HERO3+ Silver Camera ($300 value)

HERO3+ Silver captures gorgeous, professional-quality 1080p60 video and 10MP photos at speeds of up to 10 frames per second. Built-in Wi-Fi enables you to use the GoPro App to control the camera remotely, preview shots and share your favorites on Facebook, Twitter and more. Compatible with all GoPro mounts, you can wear it or attach it to your gear for immersive POV footage of your favorite activities. It’s waterproof to 131’ (40m) and built tough for all of life’s adventures. Combined with stunning low-light performance, high-performance audio and an ultra wide-angle glass lens, HERO3+ Silver makes capturing and sharing your life easier than ever.  


NCBP Book Bundle ($115 value)

 The Christian Parenting Handbook  and Companion GuideParenting is Heart Work, God's Awesome Story, Hero Training Camp Children's Curriculum

Thomas Nelson Book Bundle ($90 value)

The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst;  Desperate by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson;    Say Goodbye to Survival Mode by Crystal Paine;   All Pro Dad by Mark Merrill;   The Passionate Mom by Susan Merrill 

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FIRST PRIZE ($165 value)

$50 Mardel Gift Card

NCBP Book Bundle ($115 value)

The Christian Parenting Handbook and Companion GuideParenting is Heart Work; God's Awesome Story; Hero Training Camp Children's Curriculum

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SECOND PRIZE ($115 value)

$25 Amazon Gift Card

Thomas Nelson Book Bundle ($90 value):

The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst  Desperate by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson   Say Goodbye to Survival Mode by Crystal Paine  All Pro Dad by Mark Merrill  The Passionate Mom by Susan Merrill 

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Giveaway dates: January 12, 2015 @12:00am ET through January 28, 2015 @ 11:59 pm ET.  

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